Monthly Archives: April 2017

The Sound Relationship House Theory — Gottman


In the March issue of JFTR, Gottman and Gottman write,

“We call the theory we built the sound relationship house theory, and it is the basis of all our clinical work (Figure 1); to ease communication of this theory to clinicians, each level of the theory is formulated as advice. What is unusual about this theory is that we can measure every concept in the theory precisely in our lab. Because of that, we know how to build each process that we have identified as important. From the start of our research we knew we could predict the nature of the conflict discussion from the amount of positive affect during the events-of-the-day discussion. So we had a clue that friendship must be intrinsically related to conflict.”

Complete paper:  The Natural Principles of Love

Theorizing the Decision-Making Process for Divorce or Reconciliation by Sarah Allen & Alan J. Hawkins

Divorce is commonplace in the United States, with an abundant scholarship on the phenomenon. Most research has focused on predictors of divorce, associations between divorce and family member well-being, and interventions and policies for divorcing couples and children. Although this scholarship tells us much about why couples get divorced and the impact divorce has, it has little to say about how individuals think about and couples talk about and make meaning of their decision-making process regarding divorce or reconciliation. The purpose of this article is to examine and critique existing theoretical frameworks used to understand decision-making processes both generally in the field and specifically in the context of divorce ideation. Our goal is to propose future research and theory directions that are better suited to capturing the complexity of decision-making processes within the liminal space of the lives of individuals who are married but facing the proximate possibility of divorce.


Commentary From the Trainer’s Perspective by Vagdevi Meunier & William Bumberry

For trainers, the real appeal of this model is that Gottman method couples therapy emerged from a rich research endeavor of naturalistic observations of couples’ interactions and inductively built a theory and model that took the positive behaviors from “masters of relationships” and combined that with the reduction or elimination of negative strategies from the “disasters of relationships”

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Read The Natural Principles of Love — John & Julie Gottman





In this article, John Gottman asks us whether science can tell us about love…

“Can science bring clarity where artists have tried so hard and failed? Is there wisdom to be learned at all? Do empirical findings hold? Do they replicate? Can we understand our results? Can we discover truths that may hold everywhere on our planet? After four and a half decades of research on relationship stability and happiness, we believe that the answer to these questions is yes. This article is about our understanding of what makes relationships long lasting and happy. We use the term love in the narrow sense, to mean the primary emotions that draw people together to form a lasting, committed relationship between lovers, regardless of sexual orientation.”

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